On Forgiveness

Forgive or forget. That's what they say. It's good advice but it's not very practical. When someone hurts us, we want to hurt them back. When someone wrongs us we want to be right. Without forgiveness, old scores never settle. Old wounds never heal and the most we can hope for is that someday we'll be lucky enough to forget. - Meridith Grey

Don't you just love Meridith Grey? She always leaves us with something to think about.

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I want to forgive and forget. I want to forgive you. And I want to forget you.

This has been my way of thinking everytime I get hurt. I'm aware of the fact that having grudges and bitterness won't do me any good and so I figured that since it's almost Christmas, it's time to do some reflecting. [But of course, it's not only during the Christmas season that reflecting should be done. It must be done as necessary or as often as possible. :)]

To forgive and to forget are two different things. To forgive is to loosen your grip to the negative vibes that caused you to be hurt or offended by anyone and lead you to more positive aspects of your life, while to forget is to remove that memory in your mind. It's hard to forgive but it's almost always necessary. Sure the things that have caused us to be hurt or offended may be part of our lives already, but forgiveness lessens the weight that we have to carry, and it is capable of making us feel at peace. If someone hurts us, we shouldn't hurt them back, instead we should hold them more closely in our hearts and forgive them sincerely even before they're sorry for what they did. We won't be able to move on and fully attain happiness if we don't know how to practice forgiveness. I guess forgiveness is one of the keys to achieve eternal bliss.

We can hold on to anger, bitterness, resentment, vengeance OR embrace forgiveness and move forward. You decide. Think about it. ;)

Happy holidays!

Xoxo,

Karen